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November 10th, 2010 Breakthrough, Responsibility, Service, Value 5 Comments »

I Cried So Hard I Couldn’t Drive!

I’ve been getting a lot of questions about why I use Mentoring for Free, so I thought I’d take a few minutes and share my reasons.

When I started with Mentoring For Free, I thought I knew what it was all about. But there’s a big difference between knowing and “KNOWING”. Let me explain.

I’ve been following the system or “recipe” as outlined by my Mentor Emmanuel Padilla to generate leads and calling them, plugging them into the system, Scheduling Coaching Calls, etc.

Works beautifully.

Well, a strange thing happened a few months ago. I received a “Why” from a young lady. It was beautiful. Heartfelt. Sincere. And all of a sudden I was crying. I was out at the time and I cried the whole drive home. I’m surprised that I didn’t get into an accident. I could barely see.

I didn’t necessarily cry over what she wrote, I cried because I realized that these aren’t “Leads” or “Prospects”, they’re living, breathing People with hopes and dreams and goals and desires. And they’re trusting ME to help them. They’re sharing deep personal feelings with me. I am humbled to say the least.

And then it hit me. What an awesome responsibility that we have to these people! This is not a game. Mentoring For Free is not just a lead generating system. It’s not just training. It’s a way to serve. It’s a way to connect with people on a different level. I mean, you can even say it’s a salvation. At least for some people it is.

What’s so exciting about this, is the fact that once it “hit me” everything changed. It’s no longer about getting leads. It’s about giving and sharing what I know, what we know, to help another human being fulfill their dreams. What could be better than that? The feeling I get when someone has success with a technique I’ve shown them or even the feeling of hope that arises when a person realizes there is someone out there willing to take the time to help them. It’s amazing!

What’s funny, is it seems like the Universe has noticed and said “He finally gets it” and I have more people coming to me asking for help than I did before. It’s like the universe said “He’s ready, let’s give him some people to help.”

I mean, I’ve changed nothing in my actions. I do the same things I did from the beginning. And people are “showing up” asking for help.

I don’t know how I can ever express my gratitude to Michael Dlouhy for developing Mentoring For Free and sharing it with the world. I’m only touched by a small part of it within my own circle of influence. I can’t begin to imagine how he must feel, helping as many people as he does. How does his heart not burst from the joy?

So I want to send a public thank you to Michael Dlouhy from the bottom of my heart for allowing me the opportunity to “get it”. My life has forever been changed for the better.

To Your Success, Because Your Success Matters!

David Haines
(215) 268-6696 Anytime!

August 26th, 2010 Motivation 11 Comments »

Make a Pain List and Check It… Often!

Are you familiar with Anthony Robbins’ Personal Power program? If not, you should check it out. I recently dusted it off and started listening to it again.

In the program he talks a lot about the Pleasure – Pain principle. Basically it’s all about how people will do more to avoid pain then they ever will to get pleasure. Like for example, if there is something that we know we need to do, but keep avoiding doing that thing, it means that the pain we associate with doing it is stronger than the pleasure we would get if we did it. So we don’t do it. But, after awhile, an interesting thing happens. The pain associated with NOT doing it, becomes so strong that we end up doing it after all.


This has me thinking about how this applies to Network Marketing and our businesses in general.

For the most part, when we think of what Network Marketing can provide us, we think of all the Pleasure things, like having more money, taking vacations, owning our lives, helping other people and having all the toys we’ve always wanted.

I’ve studied a lot of the leaders on our industry and found that, while all those things are nice and were part of the drive that caused them to be able to have those things, the real reason behind that drive and focus was all the pain of NOT having those things. The pain of working for someone else, the pain of seeing their kids stuck in daycare, the pain of constently stuggling to pay their bills and the pain of seeing others succeed who were really no more talented, educated or lucky than they were.

It’s the pain that drove them.

That’s what I think is sometimes missing from those that aren’t succeeding with their business. They haven’t associated enough pain to NOT succeeding.

One of the things I always encourage members of my team to do is to figure out their “Why” and most people’s “Why” is something like making more money, or give to charity, or stop working at a job. While all those things are great, I believe they aren’t enough to really motivate them. I can instantly tell a person’s committment level based upon their “Why”.

I’ve received some really powerful ones. Ones that have made ME cry. Those are usually the people that see success.

What I’m suggesting here is that those with the most pain associated with not succeeding are actually more likely to succeed than those that just focus on the pleasure success will bring them.

So what should we do to find that pain? Ha ha, I never thought I’d want people to find and focus on pain, but this is very important.

Make a list.

Write down all the reasons why you MUST NOT FAIL.
Write down all the things that are painful about where you are right now.
Write down all the things you will not settle for.
Write down all the things that will happen if you don’t succeed in your business.
Write down all the names of the people who say you can’t do it, and along side those names, write what they’ve said to you.

I believe that once you have this list and review it daily, it can be just as important as your list of goals. The goal is what you want. The “Pain List” is what will drive you there.

So don’t wait, go make your pain list. Think of how much it will hurt you if you don’t.

To Your Success, Because Your Success Matters!

David Haines
(215) 268-6696 Anytime!

June 29th, 2010 Success, WHY 3 Comments »

Your “WHY” Will Get You Started – Your Mission Will Keep You Going

Hey, what’s your Mission in Life?

I’m not talking about your “WHY.” We’ve been over that in a previous post. I’m talking about your Mission.

A lot of people will argue that they are the same thing, but I view it a little differently.
I believe that your “WHY” is the reason you do what you do, but your Mission is your passion, your purpose, your calling. Your Mission is higher and bigger than you. It’s your reason for being.

I ask you this because if you don’t know what it is, you will eventually burn out. You’ll eventually lose the drive, the focus and the ambition to do what you’re doing.

Your “WHY” and your Mission are different, but they must to go hand and hand. It took me awhile to really understand this.

If you’ve been following this blog for any length of time you know that I hit a rough patch not too long ago that pretty much stopped me in my tracks. This sort of thing happened before and all I had to do was read my “WHY” and feel those feelings, and everything started humming again, but this time it was different. My “WHY” was no longer propelling me.

So after some deep soul searching, I realized that the problem was that my Mission wasn’t good enough. It wasn’t detailed enough. It wasn’t powerful enough.

I realized that my Mission needed to wake me up in the morning with excitement to make a difference.

My Mission needed to make me stop in awe for a few seconds whenever I thought about it.
My Mission needed to drive me to be the best I can be.
My Mission needed to be strong enough to take me to the next level and beyond.
My Mission needed to push me to do the things I didn’t want to do, because doing them would move me closer to success.

Wow, that’s a tall order for a Mission. But that is what was lacking in my life. I knew why I wanted what I wanted and why I needed to do what I do, but I didn’t have a purpose to do it.

So here is my Mission:

My Mission in life is to help as many people as I can achieve their dreams of prosperity and become better than they ever thought possible in the process.

Sounds simplistic, but it’s not simplistic for me.

You see, to me, there is no greater joy than to watch someone who thought their dreams were dead and who had resigned themselves to living a life of mediocrity, to start dreaming again and living and working toward fulfilling those dreams. Helping someone go from scraping by, living paycheck to paycheck, to making that shift in consciousness to start living in prosperity. And not just prosperity money wise. Helping them find prosperity in their health, wealth, relationships, and happiness. To help them love themselves again. To help them find their own Mission, their own purpose. To help someone avoid parts of the crappy life I used to live. To help someone avoid the mistakes I’ve made and the struggles I’ve endured.

That is the juice that gets me going. That’s my purpose. That’s my meaning. And that’s what you need to find if you haven’t already.

Your “WHY” will get you started. Your Mission will keep you going.

I would so love to hear what your Mission is. Please share with a comment below.

So what’s your Mission?

To Your Success, Because Your Success Matters!

David Haines
(215) 268-6696 Anytime!

February 18th, 2010 WHY 4 Comments »

The Importance of Finding Your “Why”

For the past few months I’ve been very depressed. So much so, that for a bit I even considered that my time here on earth might be up and that I needed to leave. Not good to say the least.

You see, I let the negative thoughts back in. I stupidly opened that familiar door to fear.

All of those fears that I thought I had conquered and put behind me, were gripping me tightly again. I thought I failed… Failed my Mentors, failed my Family, but mostly failed Myself. It’s been horrible!

I decided that this week I was going to figure out what it was exactly that was causing this “breakdown” and today I finally figured it out.

I forgot my “Why”. I got so caught up in “being successful” I forgot why I was doing all this in the first place.

So today I reread my “Why”. And yes, I cried. Because my “Why” is very powerful to me.

Finding it, changed my life. Losing sight of it, changed it back.

I will never let that happen again!

I’d like to share my “Why” with you. It took me a long time to come up with it, and a lot of digging into places I didn’t want to go. But now I realize how beneficial it is.

What’s my why?

Well, simply put, I haven’t been alive! Even as a young kid I believed I was destined for great things. I knew it in my soul. I knew I was special. What the hell happened? How did I get from there to here? This is not the life I was destined to live! I feel like I’m dying. I feel like I’m just counting the days until it’s over. I’m not experiencing all the joy and wonder that I know is out there. I’m not being the leader I was born to be.

My older kids are just starting their adult lives and they are struggling. I see the negative thought patterns and the mundane life taking hold of them. I see the contentment with a life of lack creeping in. It’s killing me. Are they destined to live the life of poverty that I’ve lived? I want to scream at them to wake up! But how can I do that? How can I expect them to change behaviors I myself have yet to change? People follow leaders who truly lead, not just talk. True leaders lead by example. I haven’t given them any positive examples to follow. This needs to change! This will change!

I, we, they will see the success I’m having. I will restore the thoughts of possibilities in all our lives. The possibility that we can do great things. That we can accomplish our goals. That our dreams are not just something to wish for! That’s the true meaning of success. All the money and all the things are just a by-product of success. True success is knowing that you’re living. Knowing that your short time here on earth was not just waiting to die. Life is meant to be experienced, soaked up, shared.

If I can just do that, I’ll know for the first time in my life that I’m not just a waste of space.

That’s my why!

So my message to you my friend, is to find your “Why”. Because when the going gets tough, and it will, your “Why” can bring you back to a place of empowerment. It will give you the reasons why you must go on. Why you must succeed. It restores hope. Without it, you can’t own your life. And that’s what we all need to strive for. Otherwise, our time here on earth is just a waste. And I know you don’t want that.

If you’d like help working on your own “Why” or just want to share yours with me, just give me a call or shoot me an email. My door is always open.

To Your Success! Because Your Success Matters!

David Haines
(215) 268-6696 Anytime!

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