Let me start off by saying that I came into Network Marketing with very high expectations. My goals were pretty aggressive.

In order to know where I’m coming from here, I have to give you some history into my story.

You see, all my adult life I’ve been searching for something that was going to save me from the life of a worker bee. And I tried a lot of different things with pretty much no success. I had set a lot of goals, but never reached them. And the reason I never reached them was because I really didn’t put much effort into making them happen. So when the goal was unmet, I was disappointed, but not surprised. I really couldn’t blame anyone but me and my lack of effort.

I hit a turning point in my life last year. My oldest son who was just starting his working life and being out on his own, ran into some financial problems. And it made me mad. Not because he wasn’t managing his money well, but because he was living that life of complacently and lack that I’ve lived with my entire life. And I was mad because he wasn’t listening to me. All HIS life I tried to teach him how to stay out of the rat race and to think the right thoughts and do the right things. But it wasn’t happening, and I was like “Why isn’t he listening to me?”

Then I realized that he wasn’t listening to me because he had no frame of reference. I was telling him NOT to be like me. Not to do the things I was doing. Who’s going to listen to that? Especially a Twenty Something kid just starting his life?

So I decided that if I was going to be a role model to my own kids, I had better start doing the things I had been preaching to them their whole life. Because what I was doing wasn’t working, not for me and not for them.

So I finally broke down and asked for help from my friend Emmanuel Padilla. He was building a Network Marketing organization for awhile, but he never pushed me into it. I told him right from the start that Network Marketing wasn’t an option for me. I didn’t understand it, and had those “Pyramid Scheme” thoughts in my head. But I decided that since what I’d been doing for the last 25 years hadn’t worked, I’d do something different. I’d do everything different.

So I studied and learned all I could and joined a Network Marketing company. Being a green personality, it wasn’t easy at first. A small example of what I mean is, before all this started. I couldn’t pick up the phone to order a pizza. I would get into so many fights with my wife about that. She didn’t understand why I was so fearful of the phone. But since I decided to change everything, in less than a month I was making my own calls. Huge difference.

I pushed myself out of my comfort zone, and stopped doing the things that were comfortable for me. Like falling into that analysis paralysis that us green personalities fall into. I refrained from reinventing the wheel and just followed the system laid out for me. I stopped waiting until things were perfect and just went out and applied massive action to everything I did.

It worked great at first, but then I started getting a bit depressed because things weren’t happening as fast as I’d thought they should. Remember, I was used to not meeting my goals… So doubt started creeping in. I did a total shift from what I was doing, and I was getting the same results.

So I started asking myself disempowering questions. Was I doing enough? Was I doing something wrong? Was something missing? Does the system really work?

And I talked to all my mentors. Well I wouldn’t say talked, I more whined than anything else. Sorry Emmanuel.

After talking/whining to everyone and sitting down to evaluate and take a hard look at what was happening, I came to this realization: None of the successes in my life have ever been instant successes. And I can say with a good deal of certainty that this holds true for you too.

But.. when I looked back at the previous year, I can honestly say that I HAVE BEEN successful. I haven’t seen all the financial rewards I was expecting in the timeframe I was expecting them, but I’ve built a very solid foundation to work from. I’ve learned tons of new skills that I’m using every day to build that foundation, and I’ve done things and pushed myself beyond anything I would have ever imagined I could do. And now I can say that I’m on the verge of that explosion you hear about so often when everything clicks, and all the pieces fall into place.

One of my problems was that I used to measure myself by what another upline sponsor and mentor of mine, Marcello Lisi has done. He’s retired and has built a large successful team. You know, sometimes we set our expectations based on those who we want to be like, but we don’t take into consideration that success didn’t happen to them instantly either. We’re seeing the byproduct of all the hard work and time they’ve put into it. And in order to get that, we need to put the same amount of effort and duplicate what they did, and only THEN will we see the same kind of results.

The whole point I’m trying to make is that you can’t measure your success based on your expectations. Because to be honest, your expectations are nothing more than a prediction of what you THINK is going to happen in the future. And if you truly thought about it, and looked back on goals and expectations you’ve set and MET in the past, you’ll realize that 9 times out of 10, the path to that success was very different than how you thought it would go.

I believe the whole focus of a goal is that it’s not how fast you reach it, but that you do the things you need to do to actually reach it. If you do that, then you can’t help but be successful. Because the only way to fail is to quit. And I know if you’re taking the time read this, you want success, and you’re not a quitter.

So just stay focused and do those daily slight edge actions and success will be yours.

No matter how long it takes.

To Your Success! Because Your Success Matters!

David Haines

(215) 268-6696 Anytime!